Sunday 19 November 2023

'Be like the fox': a sermon for the 2nd Sunday before Advent


Reading: Matthew 25:14-30

Once upon a time, there was a kingdom with a harsh ruler. The harsh ruler has a daughter, to whom he has given an enchanted spyglass, through which she can see anything in the world, in an instant. Any suitor who wants to marry the princess has three chances to evade her sight. And if they don’t, they are killed…

And in the forest at the edge of the kingdom, so the story goes, there lives a poor hunter, who journeys to the city to accept the challenge, but insists he must be allowed to hide not three times, but four. The first time, he is taken up into the clouds by a powerful eagle. The second time, he is covered by the belly of an old goat. The third time, he is swallowed by an enormous pike. But every time, the princess with the spyglass eventually finds him. The fourth time, a fox helps him dig a tunnel, right underneath the princess’s chambers, and he hides, unfound, just beneath her feet. When he eventually reveals himself, the enchantment is broken, the princess leaves the spyglass, the city and her cruel father behind, and she and the hunter live in a small hut in the woods, happily ever after.


A fairy tale, old and new, passed on through the work of the English mythologist Martin Shaw. What does it mean? Well, myths and fairy tales don’t give up their mysteries as easy as that. There’s no simple right answer. But they do invite us to listen for the echoes, the resonances, the entanglements with our stories, with our places, our times; the invitations hidden in the story for us…

‘A people tyrannized by a magical spyglass…’ The challenge to disappear from the all-seeing eye. Where might that ring bells for us?  ‘We can barely put our phones on the table, let alone disappear,’ Martin Shaw notes, And yet, ‘in all this despair, there comes a response…’ We might have something to learn here, ‘[n]ot from the eagle, not from the goat, not from the fish, but from the fox. The single place the spyglass can’t see is [right] underneath you. It can’t see what’s on your prayer mat. Dig down and deep and you, too, … will disappear. [The] prayer mat is your root system, your ancestral underpinning… If you don’t know the ground underneath you, you could be a sitting duck. But if you do, you could offer informed resistance.’[1]

Learn from the fox. Get to know the earth beneath your feet. Dig down into it. Go invisible. Resist the tyranny of the all-seeing spyglass.

‘Where is this all going?’ you might be forgiven for wondering. And what has any of it got to do with today’s gospel reading?

Bear with me, if you can. Because there’s a connection. A deep, underground connection. Deep in the subterranean, mycelial networks that knit together the root systems of all the trees in the forest. Let’s follow the trail together.

‘The Parable of the Talents’. A parable, we’ve been taught since Sunday School, that’s about being a good steward. Investing what we’ve been given – our ‘talents’, our passions, gifts and skills – boldly and creatively for the sake of the Kingdom. Be like the first and second slaves, the ‘good and trustworthy’ stewards of the Master’s wealth. And not like the ‘wicked’, ‘lazy’ and ‘worthless’ third slave, who ‘buries’ his talent, and rightfully gets his comeuppance.

Of course, we don’t dwell for too long on the comeuppance. We don’t want to frighten the children. We don’t want to get too caught up in fear-mongering and guilt trips. We stick as much as we can to the positive message, the ‘joy of the Master’ in the ingenuity of stewards one and two. Be like them, we tell ourselves, and God will be well pleased with us too.

But there is a problem with all of this. At least three problems in fact.[2]

One problem is that Jesus’ parables are never as straightforward as simple stories with an obvious ‘moral’. They’re always more slippery than that, more elusive, mysterious. They’ve got something of the fox-like cunning of myths and fairy stories, that won’t ‘explain’ easily, despite the best efforts of the best of our Sunday School teachers.

Another problem is that, when we pause and think about it for more than a moment, the Master in the story doesn’t sound a huge amount like God. A harsh man, who reaps where he doesn’t sow, and gathers where he hasn’t scattered seed. Who takes, in other words, the produce of the labour of others, and who reacts with anger and violence to those who defy him. It’s not, I hope, the God we were taught about in Sunday School, and it’s not, I hope and pray, the God we believe in today. And that is, perhaps, because the Master in the story was never intended to be a figure for God.

The third problem with the parable, is that despite what we learnt in Sunday School, and despite the name it’s acquired in most of our Bibles, it isn’t about ‘talents’ (as we know them) at all. It’s about money. Huge sums of money, in fact. One ‘talent’, in the economy of Jesus’ day, was around 100 pounds-weight of solid gold, around 20 years wages for your average labourer. Two talents, let alone five ‘talents’, then, are more than what most people could imagine earning in their entire lifetime.

So what is going on in this story?

This is where it helps if we re-root the story in its original context, and try to hear it through the ears of its original hearers.

Because to Galilean peasant farmers, and to the urban poor who were once peasant farmers but had their land dispossessed and were cast out to find some kind of livelihood in the cities, the Master in the story is a familiar figure: one of the elite class, an absentee landlord whose drive for increasing his personal wealth ruthlessly seizes peasant land, reduces those landless peasants to dependent labourers, and bleeds the earth itself dry.

And not just the Master of the parable, but the stewards too, would have been well-known to Jesus’ hearers. Yes, slaves of the Master’s house, but senior staff in the household hierarchy, key agents in managing the Master’s wealth and doing the Master’s dirty work. How did they make a profit on the money under their management? Making loans to peasant farmers at extortionate rates of interest, and taking their lands as collateral when the debts were unpaid.

Jesus’ audience would know this stuff, from bitter, personal experience of being on the receiving end. The Master’s stewards would have been hated just as much as the Master himself.

All of which would make the third steward not so much the fool of the story, but the hero!

By burying the Master’s talent in the ground, he’s opting out: he’s refusing to be part of the exploitation racket the Master is running. He’s returning the precious metal safely to the earth from which it came, where it will do no more harm to the poor of the land.

In his response to the Master, he’s speaking out: he’s articulating what everyone has always known but has been too fearful to say out loud. He challenges the Master’s exploitative practices. He blows the whistle on the Master’s ruthlessness.

But by opting out, and speaking out, he is – as everyone knows he would be, and as whistle-blowers always are – thrown out. And here’s where the story gets really dark – and really interesting…

As biblical scholar Barbara Brown Taylor reminds us, ‘How you hear a parable has a lot to do with where you are hearing it from.’

‘As for this worthless slave,’ says the Master, ‘throw him into the outer darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’

As far as the Master is concerned, this is the consequence of him kicking the disobedient steward out of his household. The Master’s household is the Master’s universe. Ordered by him, centred around him, run entirely for his benefit and his pleasure. Why would anything outside his household, in the Master’s mind, be anything other than nothingness, darkness and despair?

For many of Jesus’ hearers, who knew all too well the soul-crushing oppression of poverty, exploitation and dispossession, it’s a bit more complex. They may well recognise something of the Master’s description in their daily lives: plenty of grief and struggle and precariousness, weeping and gnashing of teeth, never far from the cliff-edge of overwhelm and despair. But a resilience and a solidarity too, mutual care and support and community, even – or especially – in the hardest of times. How might they have reacted to the third steward’s expulsion? With a certain amount of schadenfreude, perhaps – at one of the hated managers being brought down to earth? Now he knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of this stuff! See how he copes having to survive in a life like ours! He won’t last five minutes…!

But what of those who heard the parable, who had more in common not with the Master, or with the exploited peasants, but with the household steward himself? What of those who find themselves ‘stuck in the middle’: living in the Master’s house, but uneasy with the unjust, exploitative systems in which they are complicit? What of those – and I’m taking a bit of a punt here – who might find themselves sitting in positions something like our own…?

The idea of ‘opting out’ and ‘speaking out’ is scary. Blowing the whistle on the structures and systems and practices and habits on which we depend is profoundly unsettling at best, at worst unimaginable. But what if this is the challenge of the parable? What if this is it’s unnerving invitation? What if it’s seeking to direct our attention downwards: to take the shiny, weighty lump of gold and to let it go, to bury it safely back in the earth from which it came, and in which it can do less harm to the exploited, dispossessed and wretched of the earth? What if the parable is inviting us to speak out, to challenge, to blow the whistle where we see the world as we know it is not as it should be, where corruption and greed and oppression go unchallenged and unchecked? What if the parable is inviting us to notice the structures of the Master’s house within us, shaping our very identities and status, our behaviours and compulsions, our wants and needs? What if the parable wants to bring us down to earth ourselves, throw us onto the compost heap with all the others discarded by the world’s oppressive systems, decompose our rigid walls of security and defence, and bring us face to face with what one recent theologian has named ‘the dark night of the soil’…

I have a hunch. I can’t say for sure, because I’ve only caught glimpses of it. But it might just be that that dark place is also the beginnings of liberation. It might just be that, as our eyes adjust in the darkness, that we might discover that we’re not on our own, but are in the company of a multitude of people who look a bit like Jesus. It might just be, that slipping from the visibility of the all-seeing spyglass, we find ourselves seen and known and loved, maybe even for the first time. It might just be that as outcasts from the Master’s House, we find ourselves invited into a new kind of community. As those who thought we’d lost everything, we find ourselves welcomed around a different kind of table. As those who felt the world had ended, we find ourselves being taken by the hand of a little child, and led gently into the kin-dom of God.

‘Manifesto: The Mad Farmer Liberation Front’ (Wendell Berry)

Say that the leaves are harvested
when they have rotted into the mold.
Call that profit.
Prophesy such returns.
Put your faith
in the two inches of humus
that will build under the trees
every thousand years.
Listen to carrion -
put your ear close,
and hear the faint chattering
of the songs that are to come.

Expect the end of the world.
Laugh.
Laughter is immeasurable.
Be joyful
though you have considered all the facts…

As soon as the generals and the politicos
can predict the motions of your mind,
lose it.
Leave it as a sign to mark a false trail,
the way you didn't go.
Be like the fox
who makes more tracks than necessary,
some in the wrong direction.
Practice resurrection.



[1] Martin Shaw, Smokehole

[2] Much of the contextual detail that follows comes from William R Herzog II, Parables as Subversive Speech: Jesus as Pedagogue of the Oppressed. The speculations on the ‘outer darkness’ towards the end are mine.

Sunday 12 November 2023

'To be torn in two': a sermon for Remembrance Sunday

In Hodge Hill we now have a long-established tradition of marking Remembrance Sunday with a focus on lament, penitence and a re-commitment to the work of peace-making, in ways that resist allowing a narrow horizon of 'us and them'. Since October 7th, we have also been giving time every Sunday to grieve with the peoples of Palestine and Israel, and to light candles in prayer for peace and justice in the Holy Land (as we sing the song 'Peace, Salaam, Shalom'). This is my sermon from this morning. (Bible readings: Isaiah 2:2-5; Ephesians 2:13-22; Matthew 5:43-48.)

How do we remember, on a day like today? How do we remember, in a world the way it is today?

* * *

Of the deluge of images and opinions and stories coming out of Israel-Palestine over these last few weeks, in the midst of the overwhelming tragedy of the events continuing to unfold, one little contribution particularly drew my attention this week. It was written by Daniel Seidemann, an Israeli attorney specializing in Israeli-Palestinian relations in Jerusalem.

46 years ago, almost to the day, he was a cadet in the Israeli Defence Force officer training course. He and two other trainees, armed with M-16 assault rifles, were sent into the Jabaliya Refugee Camp in Gaza (which before the recent war began, was home to over 100,000 Palestinian people). It would be years, he writes, before he would recognize what he experienced there for what it was: the consequences of the ‘Naqba’ (the Arabic word for ‘catastrophe’), the name Palestinians give to the violent displacement and dispossession of their people in 1948, and ongoing since then.

But that was not his only formative experience that day. Coming out of the refugee camp, the three Israeli soldiers found themselves in Gaza’s British and Commonwealth war cemetery from the 1st and 2nd World Wars. Just next to the abject poverty of the refugee camp was this cemetery, meticulously maintained down to every blade of grass. ‘It was as though a sliver of Sussex had been transplanted to Gaza’, Seidemann writes.[1] An ‘oasis of calm’, as the cemetery’s website currently puts it.

Seidemann doesn’t comment further on the two experiences. He simply places them side by side for us: perhaps to notice the stark contrast between the two; and the equally stark separation, disconnection, between them. Two utterly different worlds, just a short walk apart.

How might we remember, I wonder, in a way that makes connections between those two worlds?

* * *

In the wake of what we have come to call the First World War, they called it ‘the war to end all wars’. After the genocidal Nazi holocaust exterminated millions of Jews (as well as Roma people, gay and disabled people, and others), the phrase ‘Never again’ has often been used. And yet, the war to end all wars didn’t. And ‘never again’ is, tragically, far from the truth. Our remembering, year after year, has done little or nothing to end the tragic collective sin of war and violence in our world… So what is the point of ‘remembering’ today?

There are, I think, at least four different kinds of ‘move’ we might make in our remembering, and I want to try and tease out each of them a little here now.

* * *

Firstly then, we can remember ‘our side’, ‘our fallen’. Those were the kind of phrases on the lips of the crowd – of mostly angry white men – that pushed through police cordons to get to the Cenotaph yesterday, supposedly to ‘protect’ it. Members of that crowd, called together by the dog whistles of right-wing politicians, were on camera one minute describing the 11th November as ‘our sacred day’… and the next minute hurling bottles at police officers, screaming ‘you’re not English any more’. Whatever they meant by the ‘sacredness’ of yesterday, was wrapped up in persistent, polarised division, hatred, and violence.

We’ve seen a similar kind of ‘remembering’ in many of the speeches of Benjamin Netanyahu, Israel’s extreme right-wing Prime Minister, who has repeatedly turned to the Hebrew Scriptures to justify his policy of relentless bombing and ethnic cleansing of Palestinians in Gaza, and the ongoing violent displacement from their homes of Palestinians in the West Bank by illegal settlers. Netanyahu has quoted passages from the prophet Isaiah, that we Christians turn to every Christmas, that speak of ‘the glory of the Lord rising’ like the sun scattering the darkness: “we are the people of the light, and they are the people of darkness, and light shall triumph over darkness,” he said. This kind of language, this kind of polarising is, ultimately, the language of terror. And we Christians should just pause for a moment and take a breath before we say anything, and remember that all too often Christians like us have used such Scriptures, such language, in similar ways.

* * *

So secondly, we might want to counter such violent polarisation by taking the side of peace. ‘Blessed are the peacemakers,’ says Jesus. What the world desperately needs, we tell ourselves, is peace. And peace must start with us.

Loving our enemies, we remember, includes ‘not bearing false witness’ about other people’s actions, experience, or positions. It includes looking for the best, for the humanity, in those with whom we might vehemently disagree. It means not equating marching for peace, or solidarity with Palestinians in Gaza, with being pro-Hamas. It means not equating being Jewish with supporting the right for Israelis to have a secure state, and not equating either of those with supporting Netanyahu’s right-wing government and its state-sponsored violence and oppression.

As Palestinian Christian theologian Munter Isaac has put it:

‘peacemaking is not an easy task! It involves taking risks and listening to both sides of a conflict. It involves stepping into places that we might not feel comfortable in and meeting people who have been stigmatized by many, likely by us ourselves. To be peacemakers, we must engage the humanity of the other who is different than us. To be a peacemaker means we must cross to the other side of the wall.[2]

Or perhaps we might be drawn to the words of Jewish rabbi Irwin Keller from California, who wrote these words on October 17th, 2023, ten days after the terrifying Hamas attacks which murdered hundreds of Israelis, both soldiers and civilians.

 

Today I am taking sides.

I am taking the side of Peace.
Peace, which I will not abandon
even when its voice is drowned out
by hurt and hatred,
bitterness of loss,
cries of right and wrong.

I am taking the side of Peace
whose name has barely been spoken
in this winnerless war.

I will hold Peace in my arms,
and share my body’s breath,
lest Peace be added
to the body count.

I will call for de-escalation
even when I want nothing more
than to get even.
I will do it
in the service of Peace.

I will make a clearing
in the overgrown
thicket of cause and effect
so Peace can breathe
for a minute
and reach for the sky.

I will do what I must
to save the life of Peace.
I will breathe through tears.
I will swallow pride.
I will bite my tongue.
I will offer love
without testing for deservingness.

So don’t ask me to wave a flag today
unless it is the flag of Peace.
Don’t ask me to sing an anthem
unless it is a song of Peace.
Don’t ask me to take sides
unless it is the side of Peace.[3]

* * *

A third kind of remembering is to take the side of the oppressed. It remembers that Scripture talks a lot of peace – but also of justice. The two come together repeatedly, intimately entangled: peace and justice, justice and peace. Here’s Palestinian theologian Munter Isaac, again:

‘Peacemaking also involves standing on the side of justice and speaking truth to power, even when it may be that of our own people, religion, or nation. Shallow diplomacy and political correctness is not always the answer. … Peacemakers call injustices out by name and call out those who are oppressors. Now this is a difficult way! Those who want to follow this path have to leave their comfort zones. It is also a path that Jesus warned would bring persecution and trouble. But this is our testimony of faith.’[4]

Our Scriptures won’t let us say that ‘God doesn’t take sides’. Time and time again in the Bible, we’re told that God hears the cries of the oppressed – and speaks and acts for their liberation. God is not interested in peace, if it doesn’t come hand in hand with justice. Remember the words of Archbishop Desmond Tutu:

“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse, and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.”

In war and conflict, there are always victims on both sides – and God grieves with all who grieve… but both sides are not necessarily equally oppressed. Taking the side of justice is an invitation to look at the uneven distribution of power and vulnerability, and to look for the face of God in those suffering enforced vulnerability and oppression. This is an invitation too – especially for those of us who seem far removed from many of the conflicts of the world – for us to notice our own complicity in injustice, through the policies of our government, and the actions and investments of companies we use. The 1917 Balfour Declaration, for example, that led to the founding of the modern state of Israel, was itself a product of the violence of British colonialism, and the colonialist belief that we have the power to draw lines in the sand, and determine who gets to live where.

* * *

Which leads us into a fourth possible move: to remember that it so much of this is really complex. Remembering requires us to do hard work: remembering a much longer, more complex history. Like the work that the National Trust have been doing over the last few years, attending to the histories of their stately homes and their entanglements in imperialism and the slave trade. And similarly, remembering that the history of the state of Israel is intertwined with the Jewish people’s history of centuries of being on the receiving end of invasion and occupation, displacement and exile, and a violent antisemitism that culminated (but didn’t end) with the Nazi holocaust. Through such remembering, we begin to piece together a longer, more complex history beyond crude polarisations, acknowledging our own complicities, and paying careful attention to the way our past histories shape present conflicts.

But this, too, can be a risky move. It can too easily slip into disengagement, politically or emotionally, abstraction, or even paralysis, throwing our hands up in the air in bewilderment: ‘it’s all just too complicated!’.

This is where remembering the big, long, complex stories needs to go hand in hand with also remembering the small, human, personal stories within them. Remembering is about valuing and treasuring each and every human life; grieving each and every human life that has been lost or scarred. And, we are only just learning to add, countless other-than-human lives too.

In our remembering, we remember that war creates trauma. Trauma is a way of naming some of the ways in which our past is still ‘alive’ in our present, both individually and collectively. And how we respond to such trauma is crucial.

Disengagement or detachment is one response (what behavioural scientists label ‘flight’). Paralysis, or ‘freeze’, is another. Another response to trauma is to respond to violence and hatred with more violence and hatred (the ‘fight’ response): in facing up to the monster, in responding out of our traumatised experience and history, we risk turning into monsters in turn. And here, again, we need to take a deep breath.

Donald Nicholl (a Christian theologian, who spent much time in the 1980s studying & teaching in Jerusalem), said this:

“If your immediate spontaneous reaction – if the movement of your heart – upon hearing of some tragedy is an ideological one rather than a human one, then your heart has become corrupted and you should leave straight away and go on pilgrimage until it is cleansed.”[5]

I wonder what kind of pilgrimage we need to go on – each of us individually, and also collectively: as a church community together here, as a country, as a world. This kind of remembering is a way of facing the trauma, and trying to find a different response, to begin to break the seemingly-endless cycles of traumatising violence.

When the letter to the Ephesians tells us that Jesus has ‘broken down the dividing walls’ and the hostility that turns us into ‘us and them’… well that sounds good, doesn’t it? But remember how we’re told that ‘breaking down’ happens: ‘by his blood’, ‘in his flesh’, ‘in [his broken] body’, ‘through the cross’… This work of breaking down dividing walls is profoundly costly: and it costs nothing less than everything. We may say that ‘peace starts within ourselves’. And yes, there’s some truth in that. But it’s certainly not as simple as finding some tranquil centre within ourselves, from which we can then radiate peace to the world. Here’s Donald Nicholl (again):

“The task of the Christian is not to be neutral – but to be torn in two.”

Peace- and justice-seeking needs to start by letting the horrors of war, violence, division and hatred sink into our depths, and to be met there by the compassion of God, the suffering love of the crucified Christ. That is where our remembering needs to begin…

May God bless you with a restless discomfort

about easy answers, half-truths, and superficial relationships,

so that you may seek truth boldly and love deep within your heart.

May God bless you with holy anger
at injustice, oppression, and exploitation of people,
so that you may tirelessly work for justice, freedom, and peace among all people.

May God bless you with the gift of tears
to shed for those who suffer from pain, rejection, starvation, or the loss of all that they cherish,
so that you may reach out your hand to comfort them and transform their pain into joy.

May God bless you with enough foolishness
to believe that you really can make a difference in this world,
so that you are able, with God’s grace, to do what others claim cannot be done.

(A Franciscan Blessing)

 



[2] Munther Isaac, The Other Side of the Wall: A Palestinian Christian Narrative of Lament and Hope (IVP, 2020)

[4] Isaac, The Other Side of the Wall

[5] From a Facebook post by Revd Dr Richard Sudworth, 30th October 2023

Friday 10 November 2023

Living in Love & Faith: what kind of body?

As the Church of England's General Synod prepares to meet next week, which will include the latest conversation and decision-making in the ongoing 'Living in Love & Faith' process, Birmingham's diocesan synod met informally yesterday, to enable our General Synod reps to hear some of us reflect on where it seems like we're at. I offered something like the following brief reflection.
It's important, I think, in these conversations for each of us to try hard to locate ourselves a little - to resist the temptation to speak from an imagined (and illusory) abstract, objective or universal place.

So I come to this as a straight, ordained man. With the structural privileges and experiential ignorances that accompany that location.

I come also as a someone for whom marriage has for many years been a profound gift, and a demanding, vulnerable, costly place (albeit one place among a number of others) within which I've been able to explore and continue working out how to be a faithful disciple of Jesus, in giving and receiving love.

I was 16 years old when Issues in Human Sexuality was published. And have sought to engage with the CofE's conversations on sexuality ever since then, including doing my very best to listen to and learn from both my LGBT+ siblings and colleagues, and from conservative siblings and colleagues too.

In this most recent moment on this long journey together, it has particularly struck me that there's a need to 'dig down' into the ongoing conversation: to try to discern what's going on 'in the depths', 'in the roots' of the issues, the disagreements, the wrestling. And it's struck me that so much of the current conversation is not, at its roots, about sex, or marriage, or how we read Scripture. It's about ecclesiology - our understandings of what it means to be church.

It's about what we do with deep difference.

It's about how we acknowledge power, and vulnerability, and how we use power, and respond to vulnerability. And than requires us to recognise that, when the conversation polarises, as it so often does, into 'sides', these sides are not symmetrical. Power and vulnerability are unevenly distributed.

It's also, at root, about who we are prepared to recognise as fellow members of the body of Christ. That's why this is fundamentally an ecclesiological question.

Are we prepared to recognise those who read Scripture very differently to us, but with just as much desire to read it faithfully? This is not, despite some caricatures, a debate between those who read Scripture faithfully, and those who follow the trends of our wider culture.

And neither is it a debate about, on the one side, faithfulness and holiness in covenantal sexual relationships, and on the other side a laissez-faire, 'anything goes' approach to sexuality. At the heart of the debate is the question: are we prepared to recognise those who seek to embody Christ's faithfulness and holiness in covenantal (and sexual) relationships, within a couple who just happen to be of the same sex?

Personally, I passionately believe that it is God's gracious will and desire that such faithful Christians should be able to participate in the profound gift and costly school of discipleship that is marriage - and that in so doing they will enrich and deepen our shared understanding of what marriage is and can be at its best.

But to move forward at this particular point in the conversation, at this point in the process, I also passionately believe that we need to pay most attention to our ecclesiology, and how that shapes our ways and processes of thinking, speaking, listening, and decision-making.

How can we embody care and truthfulness in how we characterise those we disagree with - so that we do not fall into the sin of 'bearing false witness'?

How can we recognise the uneven distribution of power and vulnerability in these hard conversations and decision, and seek Christlike ways to address this?

How can we seek ways of embodying Paul's vision of the body of Christ, with all its diverse gifts, gracious mutual recognition, and intimate interdependence (the opposite, I would suggest, of the idea of 'structural differentiation')?

To my conservative siblings especially, I want to say:

I love you.

I recognise and respect your attempts at faithfulness and holiness.

I don't want to impose my ways of reading Scripture on you.

I want and need you as flourishing fellow members of the body of Christ.

I wonder if, and how, you might find your way to say the same of me, and my LGBT+ siblings too?